We won’t kid you, 2017 has been one tough year. It started out on January 4th with Dad’s fall. From that point on I knew things would never be the same. And they weren’t. From the date of his fall and most of this year, it has felt like we were in a parallel universe. We went through the motions of “living” but it all seemed like a dream that wouldn’t let us wake up. Between Dad’s almost month-long Hospital stay, planning his Memorial Service then the emotional, financial and legal aftermath of his death, it’s still unclear how we made it. But we did. Slowly but surely. One hour at a time. One day at a time.
Now 2018 is just peaking over the horizon. It is important to remind ourselves that despite this being the year that Dad died, it was also a year of so many blessings. Here are some of them.
This was the year of friends both old and new. The “old” ones stepped up when my family needed them most. When I needed them most. They were kind. They were compassionate. They didn’t avoid us or run away. They understood our grief because they had been there themselves. For this we are forever thankful.
And to the new “friends in grief” we met through social media: Sandy (who wrote the Foreword for my book and is one of the kindest people I have ever met), Annah (my sounding board and twice weekly Reiki partner-in-crime), Ginny (the Earth Angel), Lindsay (the fighter who offered me the privilege of being one of the first to read her soon-to-be released memoir), Cathy (who always provided kind words of support despite her own loss this year), Sandy (who makes amazing jewelry all while being a newly single Mom), Nathalie (who braved her own physical pain to edit and publish a book for grieving parents), Andrew (who picks the most amazing music to grieve to), Rachel (one of the bravest and most eloquent widows around), Melo (the be-who-you-are advocate for so many who are grieving) and Connie (for always being so kind to share our posts). We don’t know how we would have made it without all of you this year!
Finally there are the Grief Reiki® clients and followers who have bravely shared their grief journeys and emotions both in person by attending workshops, free events and support groups; and virtually by providing heartfelt comments and giving us a window into their stories on social media. It has been an honor to have met you and been a part of your healing.
Our business participated in many new ventures this year. Our greatest accomplishment was publishing the book, Grief Reiki® – An Integrated Approach to Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Components of Grief and Loss, which was released at the end of December 2016. With my Dad’s death, we weren’t able to spend the time promoting it as planned, but we are grateful for all the kind words and support.
We also released the Grief Reiki® Oracle Cards App, first for Google Play then for Apple Store. Who would have thought we could release our own App? I am grateful to the Developer who had to deal with my lack of responsiveness while my Dad was in the Hospital. We are blessed by his patience and persistence. We are grateful to those who downloaded the App and found comfort in the oracle card readings.
This was also the year of the podcast. We had the honor to be asked to be a guest in the Grief Dreams, Coming Back and Lost To Profound podcasts. We were also proud to participate in a number of Holiday summits including Ghosts of Christmas Past, Advent Calendar for Bereaved Parents and Living After Loss Online Summit with After Chloe. It was such a pleasure to be able to share the tools that helped us get through our own grief in the hope they may help others.
Last but not least, we started our venture into “webinars” which took us in the direction of launching The Grief Reiki® Academy on Teachable. There are currently 7 free anytime webinars available with more planned for 2018. Stay tuned!
This was also a year of goodbyes. Saying goodbye to Dad was the toughest. We will never be the same after his death and that is okay. He is with us wherever we go. For this we are blessed.
We also finally said goodbye to a 32 year career as a cybersecurity engineer. This one was also tough because our generation has been conditioned to work at the same job until death (literally). But after two friends died by suicide, it became very evident this life-long career was no longer fulfilling. Grief Reiki® LLC became a reality with every intent of letting go of cybersecurity. But it didn’t happen right away. We held on for dear life because of fear. Fear of personal failure. Fear of financial failure. We let this fear take over. It was while taking a personal growth seminar this year that we realized those fears were unfounded. You can’t move move forward with your passion until you let go of the anchor holding you back.
And we did let go. And we never felt better.
Sending you love, comfort and peace!